I wrote this long time aqo....just thought of sharing with you'll...Please dont forget to share your views yeh :)
I WOKE UP TODAY MORNING HEARING THE NEWS OF MY GRANDUNCLE'S DEATH.
SO AFTER I WAS DONE WITH MY PENDING WORK AT UNI, I RUSHED BACK TO KLANG TO PAY MY LAST RESPECT.
AND WHEN I WAS SITTING IN THE FUNERAL HOUSE NEXT TO MY MUM, I WAS OBSERVING WHAT WAS GOING ON INSIDE THE HOUSE. AND THEN I SAW THEM COMBING MY GRANDAUNT'S HAIR AND TYING IT UP NICELY WHILE SHE WAS SITTING BESIDE HER LATE HUSBAND AND CRYING. AND THE NEXT THING IS THEY WEARING PUTTING ON RED POTTU FOR HER AND FLOWERS ON HER HAIR AND BANGLES ON HER HANDS. I CURIOUSLY ASKED MY MUM WHY ARE THEY DOING THIS AS THAT WAS MY 1ST TIME IM WITNESSING IT. THEN MY MUM EXPLAINED TO ME SAYING THAT FOR TODAY & TOMORROW SHE (GRANDAUNT) SHOULD B DRESSED UP WELL AND ONCE THE FUNERAL IS OVER THERE WILL BE A CEREMONY WHERE THEY WILL WIPE OFF HER POTTU AND TAKE OUT THE FLOWERS AND BREAK HER BANGLES. SOMETHING LIKE STEPPING INTO WIDOW HOOD.
NOW, MY QUESTION IS WHY THE HELL SHOULD A LADY GO THRU SUCH A HURTFUL CEREMONY WHEN SHE IS ALREADY SO BROKEN DOWN AFTER LOSING HER HUSBAND..?
ANSWER THAT I GET : IT'S OUR CULTURE DV..YOU DONT GET IT...I WOKE UP TODAY MORNING WITH THE NEWS OF MY GRANDUNCLE'S DEATH.
WHY IS IT THAT IN OUR CULTURE "LADIES" HAVE TO ALWAYS DO MANY SCARIFICATION. WE HAVE TO LIVE IN PAIN THRU OUT OUR LIVES AND WE ARE NOT ALLOWED TO STAND UP FOR OUR RIGHTS. THIS IS WORST IN INDIA AND EVEN WORST IF U R FROM A MIDDLE CLASS FAMILY.
LET ME SHARE WITH U PEOPLE A SMALL INCIDENT THAT HAPPEN RECENTLY....
THERE WAS THIS GUL WHO WAS TAKING THE BUS AND WHILE GETTING ON THE BUS A INDIAN GUY HELD A HAND, AND WHEN SHE TURNED AROUND AND QUESTIONED THE GUY, HIS ANSWER WAS I WANTED TO HOLD SO I DID. AND SHE WAS ADVICED NOT TO FIGHT BACK WITH THE GUY AS HE MIGHT DO SOMETHING WORST IN RETURN.
I FELT SO DISGUST SEEING THIS INCIDENT. AND ALL WE SHOULD DO IS KEEP QUIET. WE SHOULD NO FIGHT BACK.
NOT ONLY THIS, EVERY SINGLE THING IN OUR LIFE IS ALL ABOUT BOWING DOWN, KEEPING QUIET AND SACRIFICING. WHY IS THAT SO? WHY IS THAT OUR LIVES SHOULD BE LIKE SO ???
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